AS A WIFE.

Marriage in Islam is based on mutual peace, love, and compassion, not just the

Satisfaction of man's needs:

And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you

may well in tranquillity with them and He has put live and mercy between your

(hearts); verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Qur'an 30:21)

 

(He is) the Creator of the heavens and the earth: He has made for you pairs from among

yourselves and pairs among cattle: by this means does He multiply you: there is nothing

whatever like unto Him and He is the One that hears and sees (all things). (Qur'an

42:11)

The female has the right to accept or reject marriage proposals

 

"Ibn Abbas reported that a girl came to the Messenger of God, Muhammad, and she

reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent. The Messenger of

God gave her the choice ... (between accepting the marriage or invalidating it)."

(Ahmad, Hadeeth no. 2469). In another version, the girl said: "Actually I accept this

marriage but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right to force a husband

on them." [Ibn Majah]

 

The husband is responsible for the maintenance, protection, and overall headship of

the family (qiwamah).the male as the head should also help the wife in some activities. Prophet Muhammad helped in household

chores in spite of his busy schedule.

 

The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years if the father desires

to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable

terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall

be treated unfairly on account of her child nor father on account of his child. An heir

shall be chargeable in the same way if they both decide on weaning by mutual consent

and after due consultation there is no blame on them. If you decide on a foster-mother

for your offspring there is no blame on you provided you pay (the mother) what you

offered on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what you do.

(Qur'an 2:233)

 

The Qur'an urges husbands to be kind and considerate to their wives even if they do not

like them.

 

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should

you treat them with harshness that you may take away part of the marital gift you have

given them except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live

with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be

that you dislike a thing and Allah brings about though it a great deal of good. (Qur'an

4:19)

 

Prophet Muhammad taught:

" I command you to be kind to women ..."

"The best of you is the best to his family (wife) ..."